Don't blame it on the stars

Did you ever wonder why it is on the days you are in a hurry, you get stopped by the train, traffic is slower than usual, or even worse, you end up behind the slowest driver in town?  How frustrating!  Just when you think you are getting somewhere, there they are, moseying along just trying to annoy you!!

We've all been there and when it happens we wonder ... "Why do these life forces seem to stack against me?"  As if the stars initiated some cosmic plot for the sole purpose of adding even more stress to an already hectic day.  But when we really think about it, that's not what is really happening.  The fact is, being in a hurry virtually guarantees ending up behind a slower driver since we are driving faster than most of those around us.  But, in our rush, our anxiety heightens and we become our own worst enemy.  We focus on the negatives and assign blame.  We look for reasons outside of ourselves, a type of conspiracy theory, to justify our sense of victimization against forces beyond our control.

You doubt?  Then ask this question.  On days with more time, how often do you really notice being stopped by the train or slowed by other drivers?  It's not like it doesn't happen on those days too.  But, if you are honest, you usually don't notice it at all.  And if by chance you do, it does not register as a problem because it isn't a problem.  However, the minute you are delayed while in a hurry, suddenly everyone becomes part of an evil plan!

Unfortunately, we tend to ignore one main reason for our dilemma ... poor time management.  But, by blaming it on the stars or some other intangible force, we forfeit the option to make better choices with our time and ultimately decrease our stress levels.  From now on, when planning the day, let's save ourselves stress and anxiety by doing one simple thing ... add extra minutes to the plan.  And if, for some reason, we still end up in a hurry and things just do not seem to go right, take a deep breath and enjoy the ride.  Don't blame it on the stars, they are innocent.  In fact, we owe them gratitude for they selfishly offer light to help guide us through what would otherwise be a dark journey in the night.

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